Why Marriage Matters

April 19, 2011 | ELIXHER 1

It is not the government’s responsibility to protect the “sanctity” marriage (separation of church and state). The government’s responsibility is to ensure fair and equal protection under the law. Marriage matters. In law, in love, in life.Read More

Week in Review - Click, Watch, Read

April 15, 2011 | ELIXHER

A Lawsuit’s Unusual Question: Who Is a Man?

What is a man? For El’Jai Devoureau, this is not a rhetorical question. Mr. Devoureau, who was born physically female, is a man at the Motor Vehicle … Read More

Living On Faith: Reverend Eronica C. King

April 14, 2011 | ELIXHER

I know it sounds cliché, but I would not be where I am if not for my faith. The practice of my faith provides me with comfort and peace. I look back and truly wonder how I made … Read More

Ten Things We’re Tired of Hearing…

April 12, 2011 | ELIXHER 12

We’ve heard it all before—the countless remarks people make when they find out we’re gay. Sometimes the responses are harmless or even humorous; other times they’re hurtful. But most times, they’re just plain ignorant. Here are ten things we’ve heard … Read More

Week in Review - Click, Watch, Read

April 8, 2011 | ELIXHER

GBM News Countdown: 15 Most Powerful Gay Celebrities Of Color

Recently, MSN TV posted their “Countdown: 15 Most Powerful Gay Celebrities” slideshow list online, as a way of highlighting the progress of the LGBT community in contemporary society. Yet, as … Read More

Wanna See a Safer Brooklyn? Here’s How!

April 7, 2011 | ELIXHER

How many times have you heard “Hey baby” or “Smile beautiful”? Had the words “faggot” or “dyke” pierce your ears while embracing your partner in public? Or feared for your safety when you ignored or challenged someone’s advances? I’ve lost … Read More

"I’m Not Homophobic But…" and Other Things Homophobic People Say, Think and Do

April 6, 2011 | ELIXHER 4

I just don’t wanna see that shit in public. Don’t bring that around my kids. You don’t have to be so flamboyant.I don’t want gay people anywhere near me. That’s just nasty. I don’t want no gay person touching me. … Read More

The Brown Boi Project: Creating Dialogue About Race, Gender and Privilege

April 5, 2011 | ELIXHER 1

We typically don’t discuss privilege when we’re talking about historically marginalized groups. But that’s precisely the conversation B. Cole, founder of the Brown Boi Project (BBP), a leadership development and organizing project for young leaders, is aiming to have. “People ask why focus on that little place where they have privilege,” she says. “My argument is that little place where you have privilege is incredibly powerful.”

One of the guiding principles of the Brown Boi Project is that individuals can bring more social change in areas where they have power than in areas they don’t. Sounds logical, but what does that mean for “brown bois” (men and masculine-presenting women of color)? “It means that I can actually do a lot to shift misogyny and sexism because I have access to masculine privilege,” Cole, who identifies as “masculine of center,” explains.

In 2008, Cole coined “masculine of center” (MOC), a term that “recognizes the breadth and depth of identity for lesbian/queer womyn who tilt toward the masculine side of the gender scale and includes a wide range of identities such as butch, stud, aggressive/AG, macha, dom, etc.” Masculine of center womyn, along with trans men, queer men and straight men of color are the four groups BBP targets.

These populations all have similar statistics in terms of high unemployment, incarceration and high school drop out rates. Cole saw a need for capacity-building in each of those communities. The similar “life path” and limited opportunities are what led the BBP director to create a space for conversation—a conversation that delves into constructs of gender identity and race in everyday terms.

The Brown Boi Project recruits fourteen to sixteen leaders (age 35 and under) from around the country for a five-day training retreat where they learn communications, personal finance, community organizing, conflict resolution, fundraising, relationship building, gender justice, and personal life planning. Each member also receives a life coach. In the past they’ve had everyone from aspiring clothing designers to executive directors of organizations to butchers join the cohorts.

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Week in Review - Click, Watch, Read

April 1, 2011 | ELIXHER

Concussions Mar Season for GW Transgender Player

At the start of the season, Kye Allums was one of a kind — an openly transgender member of the George Washington women’s basketball team. It wasn’t long before he became someone with … Read More

Bisexual Invisibility and Its Impact

March 31, 2011 | ELIXHER 3

Two of the most prevalent stereotypes associated with bisexuals are that they’re promiscuous and indecisive. Not only are these stereotypes distortions that fuel biphobia, but the San Francisco Human Rights Commission also approved an eye-opening report that confirms bisexual invisibility has serious consequences on bisexuals’ health and economic well-being.

Many people don’t realize that being bisexual doesn’t necessarily mean randomly “switching sides.“ Being bisexual can mean identifying primarily as gay for long periods of time or identifying primarily as straight for long periods of time. It can also mean favoring one sex more than the other. Being bisexual is not merely a “phase” of experimentation that is en route to a gay or lesbian orientation.

Bisexuality is the capacity for emotional, romantic, and/or physical attraction to more than one sex or gender. A bisexual orientation speaks to the potential for, but not requirement of, involvement with more than one sex/gender. (Source)

Although many lesbians have had relationships with men at some point in their lives, being bisexual continues to carry a stigma. There is the persistent fear that a bisexual woman could at any point dump her lesbian partner for a penis. As a result, bisexual women often feel ostracized from both heterosexual and lesbian communities, leaving them more at risk for suicide, poverty and more.

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