Warrior Poets and Writers

April 21, 2011 | ELIXHER 2

Lesbian and bisexual literary icons whose words have healed and freed us…

Staceyann Chin

The truth is I’m afraid to draw your black lines around me.
I’m not always pale in the middle.
I come in too many flavors for one fucking spoon.
I am never one thing or the other.
At night I am everything I fear, tears and sorrows, black windows and muffled screams.
In the morning, I am all I ever want to be: rain and laughter,
bare footprints and invisible seams, always without breath or definition.
I claim every single dawn, for yesterday is simply what I was, and tomorrow even that will be gone.

— “Feminist or Womanist”

Becky Birtha

When you want very much
something that you can have
consider it a gift;
accept it gracefully.

— “Accept It Gracefully”

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Why Marriage Matters

April 19, 2011 | ELIXHER 1

It is not the government’s responsibility to protect the “sanctity” marriage (separation of church and state). The government’s responsibility is to ensure fair and equal protection under the law. Marriage matters. In law, in love, in life.Read More

Living On Faith: Reverend Eronica C. King

April 14, 2011 | ELIXHER

I know it sounds cliché, but I would not be where I am if not for my faith. The practice of my faith provides me with comfort and peace. I look back and truly wonder how I made … Read More

Ten Things We’re Tired of Hearing…

April 12, 2011 | ELIXHER 12

We’ve heard it all before—the countless remarks people make when they find out we’re gay. Sometimes the responses are harmless or even humorous; other times they’re hurtful. But most times, they’re just plain ignorant. Here are ten things we’ve heard … Read More

Wanna See a Safer Brooklyn? Here’s How!

April 7, 2011 | ELIXHER

How many times have you heard “Hey baby” or “Smile beautiful”? Had the words “faggot” or “dyke” pierce your ears while embracing your partner in public? Or feared for your safety when you ignored or challenged someone’s advances? I’ve lost … Read More

"I’m Not Homophobic But…" and Other Things Homophobic People Say, Think and Do

April 6, 2011 | ELIXHER 4

I just don’t wanna see that shit in public. Don’t bring that around my kids. You don’t have to be so flamboyant.I don’t want gay people anywhere near me. That’s just nasty. I don’t want no gay person touching me. … Read More

The Brown Boi Project: Creating Dialogue About Race, Gender and Privilege

April 5, 2011 | ELIXHER 1

We typically don’t discuss privilege when we’re talking about historically marginalized groups. But that’s precisely the conversation B. Cole, founder of the Brown Boi Project (BBP), a leadership development and organizing project for young leaders, is aiming to have. “People ask why focus on that little place where they have privilege,” she says. “My argument is that little place where you have privilege is incredibly powerful.”

One of the guiding principles of the Brown Boi Project is that individuals can bring more social change in areas where they have power than in areas they don’t. Sounds logical, but what does that mean for “brown bois” (men and masculine-presenting women of color)? “It means that I can actually do a lot to shift misogyny and sexism because I have access to masculine privilege,” Cole, who identifies as “masculine of center,” explains.

In 2008, Cole coined “masculine of center” (MOC), a term that “recognizes the breadth and depth of identity for lesbian/queer womyn who tilt toward the masculine side of the gender scale and includes a wide range of identities such as butch, stud, aggressive/AG, macha, dom, etc.” Masculine of center womyn, along with trans men, queer men and straight men of color are the four groups BBP targets.

These populations all have similar statistics in terms of high unemployment, incarceration and high school drop out rates. Cole saw a need for capacity-building in each of those communities. The similar “life path” and limited opportunities are what led the BBP director to create a space for conversation—a conversation that delves into constructs of gender identity and race in everyday terms.

The Brown Boi Project recruits fourteen to sixteen leaders (age 35 and under) from around the country for a five-day training retreat where they learn communications, personal finance, community organizing, conflict resolution, fundraising, relationship building, gender justice, and personal life planning. Each member also receives a life coach. In the past they’ve had everyone from aspiring clothing designers to executive directors of organizations to butchers join the cohorts.

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Bisexual Invisibility and Its Impact

March 31, 2011 | ELIXHER 3

Two of the most prevalent stereotypes associated with bisexuals are that they’re promiscuous and indecisive. Not only are these stereotypes distortions that fuel biphobia, but the San Francisco Human Rights Commission also approved an eye-opening report that confirms bisexual invisibility has serious consequences on bisexuals’ health and economic well-being.

Many people don’t realize that being bisexual doesn’t necessarily mean randomly “switching sides.“ Being bisexual can mean identifying primarily as gay for long periods of time or identifying primarily as straight for long periods of time. It can also mean favoring one sex more than the other. Being bisexual is not merely a “phase” of experimentation that is en route to a gay or lesbian orientation.

Bisexuality is the capacity for emotional, romantic, and/or physical attraction to more than one sex or gender. A bisexual orientation speaks to the potential for, but not requirement of, involvement with more than one sex/gender. (Source)

Although many lesbians have had relationships with men at some point in their lives, being bisexual continues to carry a stigma. There is the persistent fear that a bisexual woman could at any point dump her lesbian partner for a penis. As a result, bisexual women often feel ostracized from both heterosexual and lesbian communities, leaving them more at risk for suicide, poverty and more.

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Bed-Stuy Pride: Celebrating Self and Community

March 29, 2011 | ELIXHER 3

For decades, Bedford-Stuyvesant (more commonly known as Bed-Stuy) has been a cultural hub for Brooklyn’s Black population. While White faces trickle into the neighborhood and quaint coffee shops and wine bars pop up along the brownstone-lined blocks, one thing that has always been here and will remain is its Black queer community.

“There’s a misconception in Bed-Stuy that queer folks are gentrifiers, which is completely untrue,” explains Chelsea Johnson-Long, coordinator for a program of the Audre Lorde Project called the Safe OUTside the System Collective (SOS). “There are plenty of queer people who grew up in Bed-Stuy,” she adds. This is one of the many myths SOS, an anti-violence program that operates and serves lesbian, gay, bisexual, two-spirit, trans and gender non-conforming (LGBTSTGNC) people of color in central-Brooklyn, seeks to dispel with Bed-Stuy Pride.

Bed-Stuy Pride, slated to launch early August, is also an effort to address the harassment that often occurs against LGBTSTGNC people in Bed-Stuy. “Our community members experience a particular kind of violence here,” Johnson-Long explains. “Not just violence because of their sexual identity but also because of their race.”

Often individuals don’t feel safe walking home at night or publicly holding hands with their partner out of the fear of being taunted or physically harmed. This violence is not only from community members, but also from police officers. Transwomen are sometimes stopped and frisked by cops because it is assumed that they’re sex workers. Johnson-Long believes that it is becoming normalized to these every day acts of violence that leads to more heinous hate crimes like murder. “To affect that kind of stuff, you really have to affect the culture of the space,” says the SOS coordinator.

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